All right, so this article will be a little bit humorous. So all the people that get easily offended, please stop reading!

In eleventh episode of the 15th South Park season, called “Broadway Bro Down”, main character dad, Randy Marsh, finds out, that his wife gives him an amazing blowjob after he takes her to a broadway musical. After many similar situations he figures he will create and direct a special musical called “The Blowjob Queen”, that is designed to sneak the idea of orally satisfying their partners into women’s minds. As absurd and disgusting it may seem, there’s an interesting deeper meaning to that episode, in my eyes.

• How often you wanted to have amazing, wild sex, and your partner was totally not interested?
• How often did you get angry and offended because of that?
• How often did you push her or disrespect her boundaries to get what you want?
• How often you manipulated your wife, fiancee or partner into sex?

All of those situations are a good sign that you’re still having porn mentality towards sex.

This mentality not only places women in the lower position, as beings designed to bring sexual pleasure to men, but also, more importantly, doesn’t work. Nobody will be open to enjoying their sexuality with you, if you don’t respect them and their needs.

And that’s what “Broadway Bro Down” is all about in my eyes. Main character of this episode finds out, that fulfilling his partners emotional needs, spending quality time with her and doing things she enjoys from time to time, instead of caring only about himself, gives both him and his wife opportunity to explore and enjoy their sexuality once again. I could assume in the past, he was pushing her, or being frustrated and acting his fantasies out with porn, instead of bringing some love, attention and sense of care into his relationship. Those things are the bone of what we call emotional intimacy, which is the key to healthy and happy sexual activity.

So, instead of getting resentful from your entitled position, think what could you do, to actually make your relationship better:

• What was the last time you asked her out to a restaurant, to go for a date?
• When was the last time you’ve done something fun together?
• When was the last time you really listened to her when she speaks about something that’s important to her?

And how are you meeting your needs?

Quite often we are not able to be there for others because primarily we are not there for ourselves. We don’t know how to show love and appreciation because we don’t practice that with ourselves. If you’re relationship with yourself and the quality of the emotional bond and safety with your partner grow, your sexual life will start to become more and more satisfying.

So in real life, we need to man up and be able to think about others sometimes if we want to get what we need. Whenever I felt that I need porn because I can “experience amazing sex” I was always telling myself – “no, you’re watching two people having sex on screen. If you want to experience sex of your life, you need to first provide safety and care to your partner. That’s the only way to experience amazing sex. Porn is just a way to keep yourself stuck in fantasies and dream about something you’ll never have”.