All right, so this article will be a little bit humorous. So all the people that get easily offended, please stop reading! In eleventh episode of the 15th South Park season, called “Broadway Bro Down”, main character dad, Randy Marsh, finds out, that his wife gives him an amazing blowjob after he takes her to a broadway musical. After many similar situations he figures he…
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Teafullness – Meditation with tea
I would like to share a simple exercise that restores peace of mind and allows you to consciously enjoy the use of a computer. I called it “Teafullness” and it has become a fixed point in the therapies conducted by therapists whom I cooperated with. It is called “Tea-fullness” because you intend to drink your tea to the fullest, not using the habitual mind, as…
Setting Boundaries With Dysfunctional Family Members
“The comfort zone” limits us not only in our private or professional development. It can block our liberation from toxic relationships. How to set the boundaries in dysfunctional relationships? Where to find the strength to say “no”? It is quite understandable for me why you would like the members of your family to live in harmony with you. Perhaps you are tempted to turn a…
What kind of therapy should I choose? Four Paradigms.
How to free oneself from addiction? There are many types of therapy and each of them has its advantages and disadvantages. Today I want to share a few words about how to choose the type of therapy that suits your problem and personality best. Research shows that different methods of therapy have similar effectiveness – the most important factors are non-specific ones, such as the…
How to turn failure into success
That is one of the tricks of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity. – Napoleon Hill, “Think and grow rich” When I was about to go to a university, I thought it was my destiny…
Minnow’s Razor
Simple and very effective tool for fighting addiction. We do not need a literal razor, but only the understanding of how we are able to delude and deceive ourselves. A very useful tool, especially during the fight against self-deception while quitting an addiction. Pornography is: Whatever you are looking for (other than human relationships or imagination) to achieve sexual excitement. Everything (except human relationships or…
Message from Pat
Our readers inspire us the most – your latest brave answers have inspired Pat to share his experiences. Hello everyone! Thank you for all the courageous statements, they have inspired me to share some of my own experiences. I present some ideas that have worked for me – some of them can work for you as well. First of all, feelings/emotions – are only temporary,…
Make Love, Not Porn
We live in a very strange world. On the one hand, everywhere around us exists shocking sexuality – on television, in magazines, on billboards. Advertising without a piece of nudity is not a good advertisement, according to the principle that “sex sells.” On the other hand, we are still a very puritanical society – about “certain” matters we rarely talk with friends, and almost never…
Make Love, Not Porn
Żyjemy w dość dziwnym świecie. Z jednej strony wszędzie otacza nas epatowanie seksualnością – w telewizji, w czasopismach, na billboardach. Reklama bez kawałka golizny nie jest dobrą reklamą, zgodnie z zasadą, że “seks sie sprzedaje”. Z drugiej strony, jesteśmy wciąż bardzo purytańskim społeczeństwem. O “tych” sprawach, rzadko się rozmawia z przyjaciółmi, a jeszcze rzadziej w domu. Mamy głęboko zakorzeniony wzorzec, który mówi mam, że mówienie…
Obstacles on your way to sobriety – Q&A with Coach Adrian
Should I tell my partner? The decision, of course, is yours. However, if you want to achieve a deep emotional closeness in your relationship, honesty and freeing yourself from secrets can help you a lot. The decision becomes more complicated when the things we have done in the relationship threaten its existence. In this situation, you have to decide how you want to live –…