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Sexual Abstinence – what is it all about?

For some of you, the perspective of total sexual abstinence may seem frightening. However, the devil is not so black as he is painted. Today’s piece is about celibacy, and how to not make lack of sex put us even deeper in the shallows of unhealthy sexuality. First, do realize that you’re not gonna die because of that. Exactly. Sexuality is a natural need of every human being, it does not mean, however,…

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Healthy Masturbation – Possible or Not?

I know that many people will raise objections to this article. However, masturbation is a natural behavior practiced by 95% of adults, as well as by fetuses in the womb and most animal species. Clearly there is an element of human sexuality (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation ). My answer to the question is yes. But with a few conditions. Let’s start with the next stages of recovery from addiction….

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What works for me – 4th year of sobriety

Hi guys, Since I’m nearing my 4th Anniversary of sobriety from porn, I would like to share my insights about things that worked for me during that time! This is what works for me in a nutshell: Never Beat Yourself Up Learn from your mistakes. What I was constantly doing, when I had a slip, was thinking along these lines: “You screwed up again! You’ll…

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5 Things Wrong With Porn

What is wrong with pornography? Penetration of pornography into mass culture and the sexualization of society is a phenomena which we can no longer turn a blind eye to. Just like computerization has become a part of our daily operations, so has pornography. Argument One: More broadly, we are a consumer society. We consume various products. From eating in restaurants, sitting in front of the…

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Stop Chasing The Ideal Of Beauty!

Today’s article is about the standards of beauty that we all cultivate. The way you perceive beauty affects your relationship in a profound way – it can take it to the next level and create intimacy, or destroy it. It is true that every culture and age has its ideal of beauty, for which we are invariably chasing, in recent times, however, through the spread of…

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The Secret Of Everlasting Motivation

First I need to estabilish something. In order to beat this addiction, you need motivation. Motivation is not something that gracefully falls from the sky to you. It is something that we can and have to actively create in our lives, through our thinking and through our actions. In The Mindful Habit Program we talk a lot about motivation. You  need motivation everyday, just like…

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Your Safety Net – How Connecting Can Save Your Recovery

We all have difficult moments, something triggers us and we don’t know, whether we can handle the assault of emotions and compulsive desires that we are flooded with. Maybe you are approaching Christmas time with your family, you feel fatigued from overworking or relationship conflicts weigh heavily on you. All of these things can make us discouraged and out of balance. A part of the…

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